Are you looking for the move that will take you from almost having sex to actually having sex? I have it but it's going to surprise you. Why? Because you're expecting to learn a "trick" but I don't know any tricks. In fact, there are no "tricks".
Guys who think there are "tricks" do not understand how attraction works. That's just like thinking that throwing salt over your shoulder will ward off evil. If you believe that...well, hope for change because you're stuck in an endless loop of believing in something not real…then because it’s not real you know you have to believe in it even more.
Back to sex. (It’s about time!)
So you’re out with her, you’ve kissed her and that’s it. Or, you’ve done a lot more but can’t quit get to the step where you put it inside of her. The answer to both of these is complicated but not in the way that you might think.
Let me introduce the idea of utmost importance. Write this down on a Post-It and stick it to your mirror. It’s going to seem wrong – or counter intuitive, as I like to say – but it’s 100% correct.
Notice I didn’t say to not have sex. I want you to have sex. Right now. People are always much better to hang out with when they are having sex. The more sex they have the more relaxed they are. The more relaxed they are the more fun they are.
Tension can be turned into attraction and attraction can be turned into sex. She wants to have sex, but she has some instinctual roadblocks (that she isn’t even aware of!) and she might have some ethical problems with it as well.
Don’t worry about her ethical problems with having sex…because she won’t worry about them either! I’m not kidding…her instincts will trump anything her mind puts in the way.
But the instinctual roadblocks will stop you cold.
When you have not had sex with a woman – she is constantly analyzing your body language. She needs to meet a few requirements before she ’ll let you in.
1. She needs to be attracted to you…
2. She needs to feel like you will invite her to join your pack
Don’t confuse joining your pack with marriage, dating, or any other kind of official relationship. Not the case at all. Those are things she is thinking about. We don’t care about anything that she thinks. We only need to fulfill her instinctual requirements.
I know some of you just went off the handle when I said we didn’t care about what she thinks. You can choose to care…I don’t care if you do, but understand that she doesn’t actually care about them either. Only you care. How do I know? Because women have nothing but fantastic things to say about me. (I do explain in detail in my book)
They say fantastic things even though I tell them I don’t care what they think. In fact, I tell them I don’t care constantly.
Anyway…
How do I get her to feel like I’m going to invite her to join my pack?
I just tell her.
LoL.
Kidding. (That won’t work, by the way.)
You signal to her that you are interested…without lowering your own value in the process. That last part it what makes it hard. Most guys fall over themselves to make it clear to a girl that they are open to dating them.
The thing is…that lowers their value in the eyes of the woman.
To prevent that I use routines...
I tease her if we accidently make physical contact...
I’ll ask her what she’s trying to pull. I’ll say, “Hey, I just want to be friends with you.”
Remember, aAs long as she is with you…this behavior will confuse her…which raises tension in her body. On the one hand you’re initiating the mating ritual and on the other hand you’re telling her you’re only interested in her as a friend. You’re smiling (interested) but you tease her (not interested.)
This push-pull creates tension which can then very quickly be turned into attraction (sex).
This behavior delivered over the course of your time with her…will cause her to WANT sex from you.
Next, when it’s clear that she is interested… tell her (without [link: apologizing]) that you’re having a hard time controlling yourself. The more attracted she is to you…the more you should seem disgusted because you can’t control yourself. (Trust me or read my book to really understand.)
At this point I ALWAYS end the date.
You don’t have to. If she isn’t interested she'll make it clear when you say you're having trouble controlling yourself. Otherwise you can often work her up to sex...
But you run the risk of a car salesman’s worst nightmare…
Buyer’s Remorse!
To a car salesman that means the customer wants to bring the car back. But to a guy that means she feels bad about having sex and so will no longer want to have sex with you in the future. Ouch!
No repeat performance?
That sucks!
Which means it’s a one night stand if it happens. Great, if that’s good for you, go for it! But if you end the date there instead of trying to "close" …she will convince herself of how great you are and of how much you want her to join your pack.
I know it seems to make no sense…
But if you understand the system they use...It does…trust me.
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Kissing note: When you kiss you should go 90% of the way and let her come the last 10%. Why? LoL. Trust me
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Once you start kissing she will move into a sexual state of readiness (or “state”). This is a situation where she is ready to have sex. At this point her body will NOT take kindly to any interference by her mind.
Next...
You must smell and bite as you kiss. I’m not going to say don’t hurt her because a small amount of discomfort is okay if she is extremely attracted to you. And when I say it's okay… I mean a little pain means you’re excited and that will excite her.
Smelling is primal…smelling her neck and hair indicates that you know you have invaded her space and further that you are seriously considering having sex with her which helps to put her in state (of sexual readiness.)
Biting is part of sex.
If you’re thinking that you want to make love to a girl with slow sensual caresses then go ahead and do that. I’m telling you how to activate primal instincts in her. Slow and sensual has a place but it’s down the road and you use it as something “controlled” which is different than the rough out of control sex you normally have. It's good because it's different.
I say rough but she won’t think it’s rough. She will think she is making you lose control…which for her is good. It’s the same thinking when a girl makes you angry on purpose… she experiences pleasure from causing an effect on you. If she stops during sex because you have been too rough then you have either gotten too rough (stop) or you have not created enough attraction.
Next...
Don’t ask for anything.
If you want her to go down on you move her head down to where you want it or move your junk up to her face. Simple. Because you want it. Never for her. Trust me or read my book.
Don’t apologize. If you refuse to apologize a hundred times…when you finally do apologize it will actually cause her pleasure. If you apologize any time she feels she deserves it… guess what? Expect nothing but her expecting more apologies.
You may have some internal objections here. Understand that those objections come from you…not her. She doesn’t want chivalry, she doesn’t want affection, she doesn’t want manners…
She just wants a guy she’s attracted to. Period! Nothing else! Try some of it…when you see it works…you might begin to understand how wrong you have been...for so long.
...but know this. The whole is greater than its parts.
What?
If you do 20% of what I tell you…you will NOT get 20% of the results. You’ll get much, much less. Together, all the stuff I talk about…creates attraction. It’s no good to give yourself a few Alpha Traits…if you don’t have more Alpha Traits than she demands …it won’t matter how much you have improved. It won’t be enough.
Next...
Don’t say… “Does that feel good?”
Say, instead… “You like that? Huh?” But not as a question. More like when you’re beating somebody down at something and you yell at them… “You like that? Huh?”
Don’t say… “Do you want me to go down on you?”
Instead, just go. Or don’t. If you don’t like it…don’t do it. It doesn’t matter. Forget all those magazine articles that “empower” women to get what they want out of sex. If you take what you want from her during sex (don’t break the law) then she will feel attracted to you and she will feel like you’re attracted to her.
She wants to see that you can’t control yourself with her.
